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Find a Problem: My son, Brander, is constantly pressing buttons on my dvd player in the living room. He ejects any dvds that are in there, which has resulted in the lost of my Lion King movie. I have asked, spanked, and diverted him on countless situations, and once I even tried to give him apple cider vinager to extinguish this behavior.
Target Behavior: I would like for Brander to stop pressing buttons on the dvd player.
Approach/Method to Influence Behavior: I have recently moved the dvd player on top of the television, out of Brander's reach. My next step will to take the dvd player down at certain times....
Shaping Others' Behavior
Brander plays with my dvd player.
He needs to stop.
Brander will also be subjected to positive reinforcement- when the snack bag is returned after he sits back in his place on the red rug (“movie spot”).
Briefly describe an area in which you have high self-efficacy
I have high self-efficacy wen it comes to graduating from Trinity Lutheran college. This is a completely separate entity from how well I will perform this final semester.
For the area of low self-efficacy, choose any one of the techniques described in class to increase self-efficacyI could potentially apply several variations of methods that we talked about in class to boost my efficacy in the area of relationships. Talking about this problem with my partner or a counselor and receiving positive verbal feedback is one potentially beneficial option. Another option is to watch the movie Runaway Bride once again and reflect on the differences in mine and Julia Roberts' character's lives. I could compare and contrast our fears, expectations, and desires. This in effect could change my perspective of my vicarious experience through her character.
Briefly describe an area in which you have low self-efficacy.
I have lower self-efficacy when it comes to relationships. I have always wondered if I wouldn't be the Bride who walks off on her wedding day! (probably an idea taken from Julia Roberts in Runaway Bride) I also wonder if I wouldn't purposefully ruin the relationship if it was coming to that point.
What are two ways that I can increase my experience of positive emotions?
I just happen to have the perfect tool to help me recognize love and kindness- Brander! My first part of my goal to increase my positive emotions is to more closely observe my interactions with my son. (no doubt I will leak a few tears writing this...) Everyday I love my son unconditionally, and everyday he is learning new ways to show me that he loves, trusts and enjoys being with me. I want to take these experiences in as they happen. By this I mean engaging in a constant self-montoring process and becoming FULLY present when I am with my son. When Brander asks for food or Do-do I will reflect on how I have loved him enough to teach him these methods of communication. When Brander hugs me or runs to me away from other people I will recognize how he loves me and trusts me in a way that rivals no other person. I want to look back on how I dealt with a tantrum and realize how I didn't lose my cool or how I just laughed and kissed him when he was done. This process will not only make me more aware of the most obvious source of love and positive emotion in my life, it will also raise my self-efficacy of being a mother, and broaden my perspective of mother-child relationships and hopefully my positive emotions will grow to encompass every aspect of this relationship- not just the easy or fun parts.
The second part of my goal to increase my positive emotions is to meditate before I go to bed about at least one act of kindness, not of myself, that I viewed that day. I believe that my biggest concern with positive emotions is the fact that our world is full of so much conflict and negativity! If I could learn to recognize a little bit of kindness here and there I believe that it would be easier for me to exhibit the same kind of benevolence onto others, not including my son, David, or myself.
|Positive Psychology: |
Positive Emotions and Happiness
Yes, I am happy!
I have hope,
I have control,
I have flow.
What could I do to be happier? I could let myself feel happier when I am happy ('If you feel happy... you are happy'" (Myers, 2000)). Another way to become happier in this aspect, would be to establish an accountability partner who can remind me that I am happy, or what I have to be happy about.
I do not have the most positive cultural worldview. If I follow through, however, with my goal to increase my positive emotions this help to slowly improve my not-so-positive worldview.
Am I happy?
Do I like myself?- Yeah
Do I feel like I have personal control?- Sure do
Am I optimistic?- Sometimes
Am I extroverted?- Half and half
(Myers, Diener. 1995)
Am I Happy?- Judging from the above, I have the potential to be moderately happy!
What else does David Myers say? In Yes! Magazine (2004), Myers also shows that research indicates that people also feel the "need to belong", have a sense of "connection, meaning, and deep hope", the positive traits mentioned above (ie: personal control, optimism), and when people move with a sense of "flow"...
Upon reflection (and perhaps this reflection will make me happier see left column) I realize that indeed I do feel as if I belong. I have a family, a loving boyfriend, and a school group, that although dysfunctional, still exudes a sense of comradery. I certainly find a sense of connection within my family, my son and my younger brother are two people that I know that I can count on for deep love and devotion. I have a deep hope for the future and for myself, that I can use my positive traits and continuous growth to my advantage to ensure security or at least hope enough until I find that security.
Flow? -"Flow theorist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi found people reporting their greatest enjoyment not when mindlessly passive, but when unself-consciously absorbed in a mindful challenge. Most people are happier gardening than power-boating, and talking to friends than watching TV." (Also in the Yes! article- Myers, D. 2004. The secret to happiness.)
I certainly have this last one!! This is my favorite part of the whole "being happy" thing. My counselor and I had a descussion about how my favorite part of me is the intellectually engaged, mentally challenged, no drama part of me. When I can think outside myself and just be a part of a good conversation or debate- there is where I feel like I fit the most.
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|betsi.little||Portfolio||0||Feb 24 2009, 6:26 PM EST by betsi.little|
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I love this! I can't wait to see how you develop this project! Specifically, I enjoyed the Behavior Modification and Positive Psychology entries. I'm still figuring out what I want from the Self-efficacy section. Love the design too.
|CosmicLibrarian||Dream Interpretation||0||Feb 9 2009, 7:42 PM EST by CosmicLibrarian|
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I recorded my dreams for several months a few years ago. I used a method of interpretation from a book titled;er Inner Work by Robert Johnson. What I appreciated about the method was the insight that the best interpreter of your dream is yourself. His method seeks to allow the elements of your dream reveal their meaning over a period of time. I've found it to me quite enlightening. I will explain more about how to use this method if you are interested. There is a "charge" within when the correct meaning of the symbol is realized by one's conscious. The author is a follower of Carl Jung.
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